Give It Time

"Forgive and forget."

That’s the motto we’re all taught to remember when we feel we’ve been wronged.

But some days, forgiveness doesn’t come easy.

No matter how much you try, forgiving and forgetting just feels hard. You might find yourself unable to accept what’s happened to you—and despite what some may say, that’s not always a sign of immaturity. Sometimes, it’s simply a sign of hurt. Of mistrust. Of going through the same pain too many times.

In those moments, I don’t think “forgive and forget” should be the rule.

Because healing takes time. And that’s okay.

It’s like a wound—medicines might ease the pain, but the bigger ones? They take longer to heal. And that’s natural.

So if you can’t forgive right away—or forget what happened—that’s okay too.

Give yourself a little time. Breathe. Let yourself feel and grow.

Because with time, things shift. Pain softens. And one day, when you’re ready, you might be able to forgive. Maybe even forget.

And when that day comes, it’ll be because you gave yourself what you needed—patience, space, and care.